The process of modifying one’s behaviour in changed circumstances in order to meet required expectation or need is called an adjustment.
You can also say that “the second name of life is the adjustment”.You have to understand why should I adjust and how to adjust everywhere.The person who understand this philosophy of life, can only lives a successful and meaningful life “.
Why Should I Adjust
This is the common issue of this generation, No one wants to adjust but everyone expect this from others. As a result conflict ,disturbance arises in every aspect of life. If the person does not know how to compromise, even then small incidents also become distraught and caused to clinical anxiety or depression. To bear the weakness and inability of each other, to bear superficial and mental state, to face the difficulties and illness of others is essential for the family and the peace of the society.
Where we have to adjust
1) Change is everywhere and it happens, whether we want it or not .The cycle of adjustment begins with our birth only , Even when a small child leaves his mother’s lap and goes to someone else, then he starts weeping for his mother’s lap. He was feeling more comfortable in his mother’s lap and in the new place he is not able to adjust.
2) When the child is a little older then he goes to school, instead of the comfort of his home, he gets a new atmosphere, a new classmate, and a new teacher with whom he has to adjust. When he does not adjust in that place, start resist for going to school.
3) When we take our child to a familiar or relative house, sometimes he starts to insist on going back home because he does not get adjusted in that place.
4)Some student study during recess because they don’t have a home environment where they can effectively study. thus study at another time would be taken as adjustment with their home environment.
5) When the children grow up and going to the hostels for further studies even then, the roommate, food, place, teacher, etc. have to be adjusted, who can not do, they either change the hostel or come back, otherwise we can observe the reflection in their studies, behaviour etc.
6) When you have a job, you have to adjust with office, boss, colleague, place etc and the person who welcome the new change and find the new ways to turn the unexpected into a chance for growth and development wins the race. Thus well-adjusted person feels comfortable in all aspects.
7) When the girl goes to her in laws, then she has to adjust to new home, new relationship, new people, new living beings etc. Naturally it took time to accept the change and adjust to the new surroundings and people.
8) Mostly husbands and wives who have 24 hours living with each other have to adjust maximum, because both of them have been together from different environments. If “why should I adjust” question arises between them then only conflict developed in relationship. It’s better to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. Always it’s better to bend a little than to break a loving relationship. As it is true that married life is an adjustment between reality and imagination, expectation and fact”.
Thus change is a normal part of everyone’s life.
How to deal with unfavourable condition
There are two side of every prospects
First one is accept change and adjust to life and the another one is become frightened, run away from it or react negatively.
In first case you are able to mentally adapt to a situation, you can formulate a plan and implement it by adjusting to the situation. A person who can accept change and adjust to life is the one who is able to focus the mind in new directions and make choices based on desired outcomes.
In the later case having to change our behaviour and pattern is annoying and frustrating and takes us out of our comfort zones.
Conclusion
The person with whom all are happy or who maintain a consistent relationship with everyone ,indicate that he could compromise in various phases of life. No one is perfect nor two individuals in this world are perfectly same. All people are unique in their own ways.
During our journey we met many different kind of person and to sustain with them only required little understanding, adjustment, sacrifice and maturity. With maintaining our dignity and self respect we need to adapt the changes and find new solutions to the problems or situations encounter.
Always analyse by viewing the circumstances from various aspect to pinpoint the situation and to reach any conclusion. It is said that “ If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.
Change happens for a reason, and the faster you are able to adapt and move on, the better it will be for you and those around you.
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After studying this type of article not only helps to students only rather it helps parents too.
Really very praiseworthy. it is very practical view for moulding the life at any juncture in the form of adjustment. keep writing such write up. thanks
Wow, this is so true and yes, good or bad, we do need to accept the change, after all, change is the only constant!
It’s a universal truth and you have done good analysis keep it up
Excellant…quite relavant to this age where familys are small and kids find difficult to adjust when move out family setup..where they are pamperred like prince & princess…same for grownups who are still bit stubborn to what they are in, do not like to change..
उत्तम बिचार लेखक के द्वारा । Adjustment को अगर हम श्रद्धा और आत्मीय भाव दे तो शायद इतनी मुश्किल नही है जीवन। फिर भी कभी कभी हम परिस्थितियों में उलझ कर ग़लती कर देते है, उस समय adjustment में कला काम आता है।
Very effective not only for students but also for parents
Really nice. Adjustment is the basic principle of life and you have remind us the principle of life in all age group. This is your second article and u have done excellent analysis and judgement in your very short age. Keep it up my friend and I hope next
article will be more powerful and blukbuster then last two.
Really .very nice and close to truth. Being human we accept it from other . But adjustment is not only one sided. If it is one sided it will created frustration in future.
Very nicely written.. adjustment leading to acceptance of changes in life whole heartedly is the key to success at personal and professional fronts.
Hope people take inspiration from your thoughts and the world become a better place to live.
I rightfully agree to the fact that adjustment is needed in everything but again in brings me back to the question that adjustment till when ? At a point of time in life u have to put your foot down on certain decision or else later on it brings the IF and BUTS. What if I had done that ? What if I had made a little more effort ? It brings dissatisfaction which in turn gives rise to irritation and frustration ! To adjust for certain temporary situation is affordable but when it comes to permanent life altering decisions they are to be taken keeping everything in mind because u may adjust for a while but in long term it may cause u discomfort.
Congrats on your 2nd article…..thanks for sharing your impressive views…with easy to connect life situations on such a significant human value of our day to day life…..looking forward for many more useful articles….god bless…
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It is universal truth that people who make adjustments according to circumstances are more happy & enjoy their life but always keep it in mind do not compromise with ur integrity & dignity. Thank u for such a beautiful article
a great one…excellent….happyness comes with adjustment….life itself is a adjustment…life cannot be more authentic without this….yes the conclusion part could have been a little short….congratulation for 2nd blog…keep writting…
the article is awesome,,carefully analysed over some of the delicate & intricate situations in life,,,,but I hold a slightly different viewpoint on this,,,according 2 me the extent 2 which one should or can adjust shud vary with situations,persons involved,outcome of any response given wid respect 2 any undesired circumstances.
for example,,if a daughter in law is tortured by her in laws ,,she shud not tolerate as this cannot be termed adjustment,,she has to stand as an epitome of strength for her children too,,,
if a person has a long cherished dream & after making few considerations concludes that by taking few strong decisions he can afford 2 make others happier,,he shud not compromise wid his problems
if a person finds that his existence,life and family is dominated by ill educated persons who have wrong misgivings & they are ignorant,,he should not adjust & take the baton in his hand
most interesting question –was it possible 4 us 2 b able 2 free ourselves 4m the clutches of foreign rulers if we had adjusted with their system of governance???
so according 2 me the extent 2 which adjustment is made depends upon the persons involved 4 whom adjustments are made & situations surrounding such people
but if situations surrounding concerned people are favourable and it only demands small things to adjust in order to bring prosperity ,,making adjustments in order 2 ensure a peaceful life is highly recommended becoz it will sort out some of the highly complicated issues in one go & would thus help in building a closely knit family
Nice article. Actually life is the continuous adjustment of internal relation to external relations.You will never get a person of your type and every person has some good qualities and bad qualities.you either have to adjust or compromise. This Will take you towards inner peace.
Congrats for your well described 2nd blog. Best wishes for next article.
Amazingly virtuous article!
Keep up the good work!